ROMANCE

Passion and Desire

2007-09-02T09:55:00.000-07:00

"If ever should these waiting lips,
Touch softly on your face;
They'll leave a trail of passion,
Time never will erase."

Passion And Desire

If passion were a flame of fire,
That burned into my soul;
I'd be consumed by this inferno,
By you who makes me whole.

Just like the moth who can't resist,
Who's drawn into the fire;
I dance around the flickering light,
Of passion and desire.

I look so deeply in your eyes,
At the hair I long to touch;
I hear my name come whispering,
'Cross lips I need so much.

My heart is filled with longing,
I stand too near the fire.
Again I'm drawn by the music,
Of passion and desire.

My hands reach out to touch you,
I live for one look from your eyes;
I whisper your name in the quiet times,
My love too strong to deny.

I dance to the tune of your music,
I sway in the glow of your fire.
Ever drawn into this inferno,
Of passion and desire.

Allison Chambers Coxsey
c1995

Love is

2007-09-02T09:54:00.001-07:00

Love is

Love is acceptance without exceptions

Its boundaries without limitations

Its an exact measure of an imprecise proportion

Its something pure and delicate

Its losing your self inside one another

Without asking questions or questioning who, what and where

Its all these things and nothing else

But a little more of what you have inside to give

Its giving without anticipation of receiving

Its selfless and helpless

Its vulnerable to impartiality

Its safety and security when everything else around is falling apart

Its making time when there is no time

For each other, for yourselves

Its never really being alone

Just always being

Its together

No manual, no how-to-guide

No rules, no gimmicks, its sink or swim

Love has its own life that outlives the ones who love

Its undying, destined to outlast even Romeo and Juliet

Its an everlasting love

that lives on and on

Creating new life on its own

love is creation

Its all around

Love is being a care giver

To the one whom cries out in distress

For the love desired

To fill an empty space

Love is all these things

But if you must ask

Then surely you need to find out for yourself

Because this definition of love is tied to that which defines

What love is

Love Is Us

©Jason & Christina Banzer

You are my love

2007-09-02T09:48:00.000-07:00

You Are My Love

You are the essence of comfort and acceptance
Forever encouraging and loving me
For who I am and who I wish to be
Radiating your love like the warmth of a favorite blanket
I am wrapped within your heart.

You are like the ocean's tide
Constant and beautiful, yet forever changing
I watch in wonder at your many hues
Like that of a glorious sunset
The colors of you are infinite.

You are the one I need to seek
When I experience a newness in life
I want to share it with you and only you
Like a sturdy oak I lean on your strength
When I feel like a Weeping Willow.

You are eternal
You are woven into my soul forever
Etched into my life.
You are My Love

Beautiful Poetry © Ellen M.DuBois

Sweet Romantic Things to Do for Your Sweetheart

2007-08-29T16:23:00.000-07:00

Sweet Romantic Things to Do for Your Sweetheart
By Kathryn D'Imperio

1. Leave little love notes or piles of candy when you visit each other. Stash them away where your honey will be sure to find them, whether in the car, under his/her pillow or in a travel bag.

2. Call just because you are thinking of him or her leave a cute message in the voicemail or send a text message with a sweet or seductive meaning. If you prefer to leave a message as opposed to talking, call when you know he or she is unavailable so a little something sweet is waiting upon return to the cell phone, home or office.

3. Send an email, or better yet, get old-fashioned and send a letter or a card through the mail to express your love. After all, who doesnt love getting mail (well, except for bills!) as a surprise?

4. When you are getting together for an evening or even for just a few minutes, pick up his or her favorite treat or snack, a specialty coffee or dessert as a sweet surprise. If you are going to rent a movie or spend some quiet time at home, get a few snacks to enjoy with a flick or some television.

5. Speaking of renting movies, surprise your sweetheart with a movie you pick out that you know he or she would really enjoy. I often have a difficult time making up my mind about which movie to rent, so it would definitely be a huge but much appreciated step if I brought one over that I knew he would like.

6. You know those sweet things you think of when you are together or just thinking about your honey? Well, next time a thought pops in your mind, voice it! Girls especially love to know what wonderful things go on in the inner workings of their guys minds, so chances are, guys may also enjoy a few catch phrases.

7. When you spend time together, help each other out with chores to free up more time to spend together. Sometimes lending a hand can even be fun when you are both working together.

8. Swap massages, or simply give your partner a massage if you get the idea that he or she has had a long day. Foot massages and back rubs can do wonders for relaxing people and alleviating stress. Many males seem to enjoy having their backs gently scratched or rubbed softly as a means of helping them to relax.

9. Bring home take-out from a favorite dining establishment after a long day so the two of you can enjoy some food in the comfort of your own home. It isnt quite as romantic as cooking it yourself, but it is definitely a nice gesture.

10. Pick wildflowers or give a single rose or carnation for no reason. I even found a four-leaf clover once to give to my sweetheart.

12. Do something you may not want to, simply because it is important to him or her. This can be anything from attending a show or an event to doing a chore, giving up a bad habit or just trying something new. Find out what is important to him or her if you dont already know, and make it happen.

13. Spend time with his or her family. The seriousness of a relationship can sometimes be gauged by how one interacts with his or her partners family. Spending time at your honeys familys home can also serve to strengthen your relationship.

14. Spend extra time getting readydress up or wear something that you know your sweetheart loves to see on you.

15. Snuggle up and take a nap together. There is nothing quite like falling asleep and waking up in the arms of the one you love.

16. Play romantic music and dance together. Slowly dancing around the room to a favorite song can mean so much more when it is completely unexpected.

17. Go on a picnic! Gather your favorite foods, drinks and desserts, a comfortable blanket and some utensils, plates, cups and napkins and head out for the park on a beautiful day. Go for a walk in the park while you are there and enjoy all of the nature around you.

18. Carry his or her photo in your wallet. Keep your sweetie present at all times by putting a photo of him/her or the two of you together in your wallet, at work, in your car or wherever you think you would most like to see it.

19. Bring your sweetheart to visit places you came to know and love in your childhood. Parks, playgrounds, the zoo, pumpkin patches, museums, amusement parks, beaches, boardwalks and any other attractions that you enjoyed as a child can bring back happy memories to share with your significant other.

20. Share your daydreams. Whatever makes your heart soar at thoughts of the future, consider sharing those ideas with your special one. Daydreaming together can be a very romantic and emotional experience, whether it is fully in jest or in a degree of serious contemplation.

21. Spray a little bit of your perfume or cologne on his or her pillow. You will be on each others minds to begin with, but the lingering scent after you have gone separate ways for the night will bring sweeter dreams than usual.

22. Send romantic ecards to your sweetheart. If you are already intimate, send sensual ecards!

Finding summer romance

2007-08-29T16:22:00.000-07:00

Finding Summer Romance
By Jayne Fisher

Sometimes summer romances can bloom into what feels like the greatest love of your life. Maybe it's the heat, maybe it's the fact that summer is so short and sweet, or maybe it is just plain true love when you're not looking, but there's something about love in the summer that makes it unique. I�m sure we can all look back and remember at least one such summer love. Bittersweet and full of promise.

We are never too old to indulge again in a �summer love�. They can happen fast and yet you may be asking yourself - �just how to I create a summer romance?� Here are a few suggestions:

Think of carefree, sun-drenched tourists; the scent of coconut oil; a little tequila; and skin - skin everywhere! Who wouldn�t be in feeling warm toward romance? So if it�s been a little chilly in your romance department so far this year, try a hot summer vacation to fire things up.
The opportunities are endless.

1. Let loose.
If you�re generally shy, this is the one time you may have what it takes to loosen up a bit. Think about it. You�re in a new city - a stranger among strangers and no one to pass judgment. Reinvent yourself and live it up!

2. Fly solo.
If you�re the adventurous type, traveling alone is a great way to meet people. Not only do you find yourself chit-chatting with everyone from the bellhop to the bartender, but fellow single travelers take notice when you ask for a table for one. There�s no harm in trying the old standby: Anyone sitting here?"

3. Look available.
Body language is everything, and flirtation doesn�t hurt either. Smile at everyone and invite yourself into others� conversations. All it takes for a woman to meet a man is one word: "Hi."

4. Look lost.
You�re new in town; you don�t know your way around. Play dumb (but not too dumb) and ask for directions - even if you know you�re standing right on top of your destination. Or ask someone to point out the best local hangout or place to eat; it�s a great �quiet� invitation into asking him or her to join you.

5. Group date.
Dating in a crowd still counts as dating and often can be easier than one-on-one. Feign the need for an extra person or persons to round out the required "group" for a deep-sea fishing trip. Or just flat out ask the person and his/her friend on the beach to join you for an adventure at sea.

6. Board the love boat.
Singles cruises are by far the best course of action for some action. The ship just screams "available" with group gatherings and activities at all hours. And what better way to get to know someone than by exploring an exciting port together all day?

7. Hit the gym.
If you�re a fitness freak, show off that buff body at your hotel gym. The facilities are usually pretty small, so it�s easy to strike up a conversation. If you spot a cutie, and you�re staying at the hotel for an extended period of time, visit the gym daily so you can see each other again and again. Continuity will get you far.

8. Be a sport.
Summer is also a good time to sweat (and release those pheromones), so get active on your vacation with some summer sports. Here�s where the guys are, so you gals have an advantage. Take up golf; ask a stranger to be your tennis partner; get in on the beach volleyball game.

Most of all remember it�s hot and people like to spend time outdoors, especially if they've been cooped up at home during a cold gray winter. The newfound sense of freedom associated with summer's advent also leads to more than a few new relationships - the sun is shining, birds are chirping, flowers are blooming, and everyone is in less clothes! Why not meet someone new and start something that will keep you warm through next winter?
The best advice anyone can give during these hot summer dates is to play it cool and just be you!

Autumn Love

2007-08-29T16:20:00.000-07:00

Autumn Love
By Jayne Fisher

You know summer is saying her final goodbye when the leaves turn from green to yellow and then others turn into orange, red or even purple. You breathe in the crisp air and notice the sweet aroma of summer has turned into the smell of autumn rain still trapped within the skin of clouds and lovers. One senses that this scent of dew will soon become the silent snowflake seeking refuge on your nose. Ah…. Autumn has arrived and turns your head with her unmasking of a palette so bright as she begins to paint the landscape in hues unimaginable. As if waking from a languid dream you notice that life is in abundant change around you and preparing her creatures for the long cold days of winter.

Soon thoughts turn to pumpkins, homemade pies, raking leaves, crackling fires and steamy hot cider. Autumn is the perfect time for love. No other season comes “dressed” for the backdrop of a love play like Autumn. With Autumn comes the sense of urgency to get things done quickly before all becomes enveloped in the hush of winter white.

Walking through Autumn leaves with your love brings back a memory of a magic to time as a child when a pile of leaves was so much more than a nuisance. This is a wonderful opportunity to be that child again and play! Invite your sweetheart to hold you tight and just fall into those leaves together and you will find yourself falling in love, perhaps for the first time or the first time this Autumn.

Turn your head and everywhere couples are nestled into each other with soft whispers and their breaths captured in the icy air. Breathe in each other’s breath and become one. Slip your arms around each other and just take time to notice the days growing shorter and life being lived to the fullest. Harvest these fruits of Autumn and cherish the cycles of our seasons.

Echo again the changes that you see, Autumn……., with new beginnings just around the corner.

Date Ideas

2007-08-29T16:12:00.000-07:00

Visit the zoo

See an aquarium

Go to a play

Visit an art gallery

Play board games

Go to a drive-in movie

Go to a car show

Go see fireworks

Go to a movie

Go to an ice skating show

Go to a concert

Visit garage sales

Go to an air show

Play card games

Make your own video

Karaoke

See a musical

Go to a concert

Go out for a cultural dinner

Visit a children's hospital

Go to the symphony

Visit each other's grandparents

Volunteer together

Go camping

Go horseback riding

Go miniature golfing

Go whitewater rafting

Go dancing

Rake leaves & play in them

Play a game of tag

Hopscotch

Climb trees together

Take a riverboat cruise

Play broomball

Play kick the can

Ride a ferry or steamboat

Waterslide

Go swimming

Go moped riding

Go to the driving range

Play touch football

Jet ski

Go sledding

Work out together

Build a snowman

Make snow angels

Sunbathe together

Run together in the rain

Play racquetball

Badminton

Ride go-carts

Beach volleyball

Catch fire flies

Snowball fights

Go for a country drive

Go stargazing

Rent a movie

Have a picnic at home

Look at Christmas lights

Go to a museum

Watch the sunset

Bake cookies together

Do laundry together

Make ice cream

Go for a sunset walk

Cook dinner for each other

Go grocery shopping

Build ice cream sundaes

Color in coloring books

Go to an arcade

Visit a city that is the name of a state

Take a sleigh ride

Go snowmobiling

Play frisbee

Park and star watch

Visit a pet store

Rent a limo for the evening

Walk on the beach at midnight

Roast marshmallows over a campfire

Visit favorite childhood places

Winter Date Ideas

Finger paint

Snuggle up in front of the fireplace

Go to the beach

Visit a city park

Pillow fight

Go kayaking

Walk your dog

Play hide and seek

Go ice skating

Go roller blading

Build models

Pick colorful fall leaves

Go for a moonlit walk

Watch TV together

Decorate a Christmas tree

Feed ducks at a pond

Go on a hay ride

Snuggle

Carve a jack-o-lantern

Watch the sunrise

Go shell searching on the beach

Visit an orchard

Watch little league games

Watch planes take off

See a midnight movie

Go to a wedding together

Look for 4-leaf clovers

Fruit tree picking /orchard

Go window shopping

Read tabloids & laugh together

Thumb wrestle

Puddle jump in the rain

Play tennis

Play volleyball

Hot air balloon ride

Ride a bike built for two

Go water-skiing

Go sailing

Go to a playground

Go to the horse races

Go to an amusement park

Play laser tag

Learn to rock climb

Go bowling

Play basketball (1 on 1)

Cook out

Visit caves

Fly a kite

Give each other backrubs

Take a helicopter ride

Go deep sea fishing

Go scuba diving

Go on a hayride

Walk through a mall

Have a small party

Go to church together

Go to a boating show/race

Take a hobby class

Visit a haunted house

Go to a circus

Go out for coffee

Visit a flea market

Cruise in a convertible

Go to an all you can eat buffet

Go to a ballet

Play bingo

Help at a soup kitchen

Go to an opera

Go to a bookstore

Visit another city

Go hear jazz or reggae

Go on a cruise

Do yard work

Have shaving cream fight

Trampoline

Go Snowboarding

Go Skiing

Listen to music

Go snorkeling

First Date

Go to a football game

Sensual Touch Massage

2007-08-29T16:11:00.000-07:00

Sensual Touch Massage

The combination of scent and touch is extremely effective in opening up intimacy between two people. That's basically how we communicate love in an effective way, a way that doesn't involve having to discuss the subject a great deal. It also works wonderfully on a basic physical level. There are a lot of nerve endings that follow along the path of the spine. As you massage, your touch brings the blood to the surface, you speed the absorption of the oils into the skin, and you also bring up the level of oxytocin, the hormone needed in high levels for the process of sexual arousal.

Massage is an especially good thing for men to focus on. Women often need the kind of attention it gives them o feel comfortable with proceeding on to more intimate activities. The nurturing, caring-for aspect of romance is extremely important between two people. You will have more interesting and intense erotic experiences if you're involved on all levels with each other. And touch and scent are the best ways of really opening some of those deeper levels.

A backrub is something that everyone can relate to positively and that's a good place to start. Using oils will make it quite a different, and far more exciting, experience.

Begin the massage with a small amount of your chosen aromatherapy oil, just a teaspoon or so. Rub the oil in the palms of your hands to warm it up before it touches your partner's skin. Cold oil poured on a back will quickly produce about twice as much tension as was there before you started!

There are certain basic message techniques designed to relieve tension, that are very effective. Tension tends to accumulate in the neck, shoulders and upper back in women, and in the lower back and buttocks in men. The really important thing is not how you do the massage. The idea is not to become an expert masseuse or masseur. This is a seduction ritual! Be creative and playful.

The Welcoming Press: With your lover lying face down, straddle him or her or kneel at their side. Gently press down on your partner's shoulders, and on either side of the spine. Do not press directly on the spin at any time during the massage. This stroke gives your partner a few moments to get used to the feeling of your hands on their skin.

The Back Warmer: Now begin to warm your lover's back. With a flat hand, fingers together, palm in contact with the skin, move the hands in parallel lines up either side of the spine, then out and across the shoulders, and down the sides of the torso.

Kneading: Working as deeply as is comfortable for your partner, use your fingers to knead the muscles of the back, starting with the neck and shoulders and working your way down. Go slowly and use additional oil as necessary.

Raking: Spread your fingers and, keeping them somewhat stiff, rake them down the back from shoulders to buttocks. This releases deep, underlying tissue tensions.

Lower Back: The lower back and sacrum (the downward-pointing triangle located between the buttocks at the end of the spine) can become congested and tender, especially in premenstrual women. Lightly massage this area with small, circular strokes on buttocks, hips and upper thighs. With a man, use lower back spirals. Starting at the top of the crack between the buttocks use your thumbs to make small spirals upwards along either side of the tailbone to the top of the sacrum, then press your thumbs along the top of the hips and move them out, across and down the side of the body to the floor. Repeat several times.

Buttocks: Try "Thumbs over the Mountain." Starting at the bottom, press your thumbs firmly into the flesh of the buttocks and follow the curve up, around, and down the side of the hips. This can be a tender and sensitive area, so use only as much pressure as your lover can comfortably tolerate. Return to the first position and move your thumbs apart slightly to describe a second curved line that is parallel to and outside the first, continuing until you have no curve left to follow. Repeat several times.

Thighs: Once you get to your lover's thighs, you may find yourself getting distracted and decide to shift your focus to other kinds of touching. Or you may want to try out some massage strokes of your own design. Or you can ask your partner to turn over and continue the massage with a few more strokes to the front of the body.

Shoulder and Chest Presses: Kneeling behind your partner, as he or she is lying face up, press down on the shoulders and hold. Ask your partner to take a deep, releasing breath, and let the essential oils work their magic as you increase the pressure of your hands slightly. At the end of the exhalation, release. Slide your hands up and over your lover's collar bone and press very gently. Have them take a deep breath as you hold, then release. Now move your hands to the center of the chest, (between a woman's breasts) and, laying one hand on top of the other, press very gently. Have your partner take a deep breath and release.

Sexual Energy Release Points, Neck and Ears: Encourage your lover to breathe in a deep and relaxing manner as you gently massage their neck, making small circles over the release points on the upper neck and about halfway up the ears. If the massage is a prelude to lovemaking, now is a really good time to let the kissing begin. Remember, too, that a woman's breasts are highly charged with erotic energy and can create a dramatic arousal response when massaged or caressed.

Improvise! Well, you're on your own from here. Relax, improvise and be creative, you'll do just fine!

Romanic ideas

2007-08-29T16:01:00.000-07:00

Romantic Ideas

Romantic ideas to spice up your relationship

Make a little loving gesture every day for one full year.

Cuddle on the sofa and watch a movie.

Take a bubble bath together.

Walk on the beach in the moonlight.

Put a note in a romance novel saying, "The story is great but our own love story is the best".

Put a single red rose on the seat of your lover's car before they go to work.

Send your lover a virtual postcard at least once a week.

Get every book ever written by your loved one's favorite author.

Get every movie starring your lovers favorite actor.

Keep twenty pounds of your lovers favorite candy on hand.

Take her to see the movie Titanic fifteen times.

Make love to him/her every night until he/she asks you to stop.

Give him/her twelve dozen roses on all their special days.

Compose a list: "101 Reasons Why You're the Greatest" Write each reason on a separate square of paper. Wrap them in a fancy gift box.

Sprinkle perfume on to light bulb. When light is turned on the scent of the perfume will fill the room.

Relax with a glass of white wine.

Listen to a romantic audio tape, fix a cup of hot flavored tea, and light two candles.

Keep a journal of your romantic fantasies. Share it with your soul mate.

Buy a bunch of fish at a pet store. It doesn't matter what kind. Leave it for your lover with a note saying " Out of all the fish in the sea, you are the one for me".

Take a picture of yourself in the most sexy outfit possible. Hide in a secret spot in your house and leave him or her clues on how to get there. Watch the sparks fly!

Put a blindfold on your lover and drive them to a place where you have a blanket, candles, strawberries, sparkling drinks, and a rose. Park the car and take off the blindfold while you read a poem you have written for them.

While your lover is in the shower, or bath, put their bath towel in a hot dryer for a few minutes. Greet them when they get out of the shower with the toasty towel.

Pull the bag out of your lovers breakfast cereal box and slit a small hole in it. Insert a love note. Tape up the bag and return it to the box. What a way to start the day!

Write a list of 50 or more things you like or love about your sweetheart.

Unplug the TV set. Put a note on the screen saying, "Turn Me on Instead".

Play "hide-and-seek" in the rain. It's fun and VERY sensual!

Build your lover a web page telling them why you love them so much. Mention special moments and add some images and cool links to topics that interest them. Surf the web with them one day and just "stumble upon it". Or have someone send them an anonymous email with the link inviting them to the page.

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Fill bathtub with warm water sprinkled with rose petals.

Fix a hot cup of Raspberry Chocolate, cuddle in a warm afghan and watch An Affair to Remember.

Place a perfumed handkerchief in the dryer with your sheets before drying.

Send your love a letter with confetti hearts inside of the letter so they pour out everywhere when your sweetheart opens it.

Invite your sweetie to an intimate dinner at your place. Make a pizza and with the pepperoni you can write something sweet, like "you are the one for me".

Surprise your lover with a kiss before they can finish a sentence.

Write your own love poems then record them on a tape and give them to your sweetheart.

Give your love an antique compass and say "You will never lose me". Your love will swear the needle always points to their heart!

While your love takes a shower, write the words "I love you" in the condensation of the bathroom mirror.

Leave a trail of "Hershey's chocolate kisses" from the front door to the bedroom, right up to the bed. On the bed leave a note that reads 'I kiss the ground you walk on.' Make sure you're not home when s/he gets in!

Write a love note or poem on a piece of paper and then cut it up into puzzle-like pieces. Send one a day to your special someone.

Play the game of monopoly with a few new rules. Change boardwalk into backrub, and Tennessee into take your shirt off. Every time you pass go, you get a kiss. etc.

Look straight into the eyes of your love and PAY ATTENTION to what they tell you! Tell your mate something about you that no one else knows.

Look into the eyes of your special someone often. "The eyes are the window to the soul". Weave love, sex, intimacy, passion and romance into the fabric of your daily lives.

Carve "His" and "Hers" jack-o-lanterns at Halloween.

Buy a set of matching silk pajamas, and take turns modeling them for each other.

Go through revolving doors with your lover.

Camp-out in a tent with your lover and picnic in a tree house

Men: Talk more. Women: Touch more.

Spend one solid hour exploring various kissing techniques.

Turn your "bedroom" into a "boudoir". Use soft colors and fabrics, fresh cut flowers on your nightstand, mirrors everywhere, etc. Hang your lovers Favorite art on your walls.

Many more romantic tips at

Flirting Tips

2007-08-29T15:59:00.000-07:00

Flirting Tips

Women are so much more subtle about flirting clues that men need to really pay attention. Ladies, men are not used to women flirting with them. An overwhelming majority of men said they would just love it if a woman would talk to them first or at least express a larger clue that you were interested in checking them out.

#1: Repeated contact...at least three separate verbal or non-verbal clues need to be given. Why? The first time he's going to look around and make sure it's really him that you are flirting with. The second, he knows it's him and he gets flushed and pleased. (At this point he'll probably walk by you and at least smile..he's checking you out a little more.) The third time you can express interest-by introducing yourself, or commenting on his tie, or waving from across the room. Now he knows you are open to meeting and it will be a cinch.

#2: Whisper...it always gets their attention. Ask them if you can tell them a secret...Then whisper in their ear: 'I just love your tie...can I buy it from you when you are done with it?'

#3: Don't sit with other women...men don't want you to reject them in front of an audience. If you do go out with a friend...separate every so often or take a breather from talking...men do not want to risk your disapproval by interrupting you. (You have already missed out on a lot of quality polite men who didn't want to interrupt.)

#4: Treat men gently...If someone you are not interested in approaches you and flirts ...be nice.... All the other men are watching to see what you do. If you laugh after he leaves or show visual disapproval, you are cutting your chances on anyone else approaching you. Try shaking his hand and saying something like: 'It was so nice of you to approach me...what's your name? Tom? Tom, I know how hard it is to meet people...I might have a girlfriend who would be interested in you.'

#5: IF he acts like a JERK! Be polite but firm. Hand him a copy of the men's version of 'Flirting with Greatness' and ask him to go practice on someone else. Firmly say that 'lines' with sexual overtones are not only not attractive to you but to most other women in the world.

#6: Use the Buddy system. Walk through a group of men and have someone watch to see who's checking you out.

#7: Become More Irresistible! Show a little leg....wear higher heels...the redder the lipstick the more available and noticeable you will be. Arch your back a little as you sit up tall and cross your legs high. Wear earrings that are interesting enough to make someone comment on them.

#8: Look over your shoulder...and smile at him. This asymmetrical position is always a signal you are interested.

#9: Give him a look all over from head to toe - nod with approval and then flash him your most winning smile.

#10: Remember that flirting is a way of connecting from the heart and acknowledging someone. Be generous! Have Fun!

Hot Ecards - Send beautiful love ecards.

The Art of Seduction

2007-08-29T15:58:00.000-07:00

The Art of Seduction

The Art of Seduction - Seduce Your Man
By Jayne Fisher

First, it's very important that you choose the right person to seduce. This is more a matter of instinct than anything else, but most of us at will attempt to make conversation, or at least some eye contact, with a potential partner whom we consider to be about as attractive as we feel we are. So, if you are not happy with the way you look and moreover who you are on the inside, then start there!

The thrill of seduction sometimes lies in the chase rather than the conquest. The excitement of wanting and pursuing someone can give a sense of satisfaction in itself - this is especially true for men. But those who thoroughly enjoy the chase are generally people with plenty of self-confidence and their belief in themselves increases the likelihood of success.

I suggest planning and setting up the time and the right place knowing you will be alone for some period of time. If the object of your passion is somebody you see on a regular basis, the time and the place being wrong may also very well add to the thrill. If you're getting the right feedback from him (flirting), the knowledge that that he is interested but that you can't do anything about it just yet can increase the feelings of arousal and excitement. Let them linger ...

Now - just how do you know that he's interested? Your best clues come from reading his body language. His body signals are far better indicators of how he feels about you than anything he may actually say verbally. The eyes are the biggest give-away when it comes to seduction of either sex. If he returns your gaze, and especially if he holds eye contact with you longer than you'd normally expect, then chances are he’s quite interested. Trust your instincts and you'll 'feel' whether he's interested or not. Look for small gestures and tone of voice tell you a lot about what he feels towards you.

Flirt. Flirt. Flirt. Important - We flirt with others to remind our partner that we still need to be wooed by him, but when used for seduction, it's a means of keeping the other person interested and aroused, as well as letting them know that they are unlikely to be rejected. Men, who are generally the pursuers, are highly dependent on your signals to reassure them that they are 'onto something' good. And ladies, playing hard-to-get isn't particularly attractive to men unless you're sending out enough signals to assure him that you are 'gettable' and that the chase will be worth it in the end. Just beware that you may chase him away.

Once you've made it known that you are attracted to him, you'll need to let him know where the encounter is likely to be heading. People have very different ideas of what sex should be, so it's important that you both know that you're looking for the same things and headed in the same direction. The subtle approach is more likely to get you what you want. Remember, though, men generally take the lead in this area, even asking questions and trying to determine whether you'd make a satisfactory sex partner. Follow his lead. The questions probably won't be that direct (depending upon the man), but they will be based around 'self-disclosure'. He tells you some, you tell him some and this creates trust. Try discussing sex in a light-hearted, abstract manner when talking with a potential lover, testing each other in a non-committal way.

Two people, who may have been attracted to each other visually, may not have the right chemistry to move along the road of seduction. Once you’ve talked a little about it, does he still seem interested? Look for signs of acceptance or rejection (remember rejection could depend on many many things - perhaps you’re just too much woman for him). If you pick up on any signs of rejection, don't waste your time on something that is very unlikely to happen, no matter how much you think you fancy him. The right man is out there just waiting to be seduced by you!

Surrender - If you're still doing fine and the signals are good, it's time to make your move. One of you must surrender. In all probability it will be you, because even if you initiated the seduction, he will probably have taken over the role of pursuer somewhere along the line. The roles of 'hunter' and 'prey' have been decided through thousands of years of evolution, and usually fall naturally into place.

Meaning of kisses and places to kiss

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laces to Kiss Your Love

Behind their ear.
Tip of their nose.
Back of their neck.
Underside of their forearm.
Curve of their waist.
Palm of their hand.
Inside their wrist.
Under their chin.
Their eyelids.
Inside of their ankle.
Their collar bone.
Tips of their fingers.
Their spine.
Small of their back.
Their tummy.
Behind their knees.

Of course, this is just to give you an idea. Aim to shower your love with kisses ALL OVER!

Kiss on the hand - I adore you.

Kiss on the cheek - I just want to be friends.

Kiss on the chin - You are cute!

Kiss on the neck - I want you.

Kiss on the lips - I love you.

Kiss on the ears - Let's have some fun.

Kiss anywhere else - You're the best.

Kisses Types

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Below you will find a variety of kiss types. If you find some that catch your fancy, feel free to try them :-)

Butterfly Kiss - With your faces less than a breath away, open and close your eyelids against your partners. If done correctly, the fluttering sensation will match the one in your heart.

Cheek Kiss - A friendly, "I really like you" kiss. Often the preferred kissing method of a first date. With your hands on your partner's shoulders, gently brush your lips across her cheek.

Earlobe Kiss - Gently sip and suck the earlobe. Avoid louder sucking noises as ears are sensitized noise detectors.

Eskimo Kiss - With your faces less than a breath apart, gently rub your noses together.

Eye Kiss - Hold your partner's head with both hands and slowly move their head in the direction you wish your kiss to go... then slowly kiss up towards your partner's eyes and give them a tender kiss on top of their closed eyes.

Eyelid Kiss - While your partner is resting/sleeping with eyes closed, very very gently kiss the spot right below their browbone. A very intimate kiss.

Finger Kiss - While laying together gently suck on their fingers. This can be very seductive and pleasurable.

Foot Kiss - An erotic and romantic gesture. It may tickle, but relax and enjoy it! To give a toe kiss by gently suck the toes and then lightly kissing the foot. It helps to gently massage the base of the foot while performing the kiss.

Forehead Kiss - The "motherly" kiss or "just friends" kiss. The forehead kiss can be a comforting kiss to anyone. Simply brush your lips lightly across the crown of their head.

Freeze Kiss (or Melt Kiss) - Experiment with this fun kiss. Put a small piece of ice in your mouth, then open mouth and kiss your partner, passing them the ice with your tongue. It's an erotic and sensual french kiss with a twist of cold.

French Kiss - The kiss involving the tongue. Some call this the "Soul Kiss" because the life and soul are thought to pass through the mouth's breath in the exchange across tongues. Surprisingly, the French call this "The English Kiss".

Fruity Kiss - Take a small piece of fruit and place between your lips (juicy fruits such as grapes, strawberries, small pieces of pineapple or mango are ideal). Kiss your partner and nibble one half of the piece of fruit while they nibble the other until it breaks in half, allowing the juice to run into your mouths.

Hand Kiss - Gently raise her hand to your lips. Lightly brush your lips across the top of her hand. Historically this kiss was performed with a bow, which showed deference to a lady.

Hickey Kiss - The object is not to draw blood, but to gently leave a mark that will prove your interlude was not a dream. This is often included in erotic foreplay.

Hostage Kiss - Cover your lips with tape and get your love's attention. When they come near, make noises like you're trying to tell them something and motion as if you can't get the tape off. Once they remove the tape from you to hear what you're trying to say tell them: "I've been saving my lips all day just for you!" Then kiss your love passionately!

Hot and Cold Kiss - Lick your partner's lips so that they're warm, and then gently blow on them. The sudden cold blast makes for a sensual explosion, and they will often try it on you next, as well as get very passionate.

Mistletoe Kiss - Surprise your lover by capturing them with a gentle holiday kiss under the mistletoe. This is also a good method for shyer individuals to steal a kiss from a potential lover.

Letter Kiss - Send your lover a kiss in a love letter by writing the letter x several times in a row at the bottom of a letter such as XXXXX.

Lick Kiss - Just before kissing, gently run your tongue along you partners lip whether it be the top or bottom one depending on the position of your lips. Very sensual.

Lip Sucking Kiss - When kissing gently suck on their lower lip. This can be very exciting.

Neck Nibble Kiss - Gently nibble up and down your partners neck. End with a gentle kiss on the lips.

Nip Kiss - This kiss can create a very erotic sensation. While kissing your partner, ever so gently nibble on their lips. You must be very careful not to bite to hard or hurt your partner. When done correctly, this kiss ignites wonderful sensations.

Reverse Lips Kiss - It involves standing above your lover and kissing them from over their head. This way, each kisser can take the hyper-sensitive bottom lip of thier lover in their mouths, and GENTLY draw blood to the surface of the lip by nibbling and sucking. A very sensuous, connecting kiss.

Searching The Cavern - Use the lips and tongue to gently tickle and kiss your lover's navel. Vary speeds and stroke to change sensation. Invigorating and intoxicating.

Shoulder Kiss - Simply come from behind, embrace her, and kiss the top of her shoulder. This is a sensual, loving kiss.

Sip Kiss - Take a small sip of your favorite drink. Leaving a little bit of it on your lips, kiss your partner. It is a unique way to create a sensual feeling and your partner will enjoy it.

Talking Kiss - Whisper sweet nothings into your partner's mouth. If caught in the act, simply say as Chico Marx, "I wasn't kissing her. I was whispering into her mouth."

Teaser Kiss - Starting on the forehead, a sweet short kiss on lips, then move up the arms up to her hand, kiss her hand, then come back up her arm, to her face and then lightly kiss her lips till she wants a passionate kiss.

The Buzzing Kiss - Gently place your lips against your lover's neck , behind their ear. Now, send a shudder through their skin by gently growling and humming, vibrating your lips and cheeks as you do so. Move up and down the neck, over the bones of the face and lips. Stimulating and erotic when done correctly.

The Whipped Cream Kiss - Dip your finger into some cool whip or whipped cream of your choice. Lick it off slowly, then embrace your partner and kiss them deeply letting their tongue slip over yours for a wonderfully sweet kiss. It's very seductive and passionate.

Tiger Kiss - Quietly sneak up behind your partner making sure they do not know what you are going to do. Out of the blue, grab them and gently bite their neck. Make sure to get a few good growls in too. This will surely surprise them.

Trickle Kiss - Take a sip of a favourite drink and trickle it slowly into partner's mouth while kissing.

Tongue Sucking - A variation of the French kiss. During an open-mouth kiss gently suck on your partner's tongue (not too hard because it may hurt). Very sexy :-)

Quickie Kiss - When you're in a rush. Often the nose gets it rather than the lips.

Vacuum Kiss - While kissing open-mouthed, slightly suck in as if you were sucking the air from your partners mouth. This is a playful kiss.

Wake Up Kiss - Before your partner awakes lean over and kiss their cheek and move over giving soft kisses until you reach their lips. Definitely a more than pleasant way to wake up!

Virtual Kiss - For Internet lovers. Send an e-card or a kiss via email with this symbol: :-*